Debunking the Sigma Male Myth?

The term "sigma male" has surged in popularity in recent years, especially in online discussions about masculinity and social roles. Often depicted as the 'lone wolf', the sigma male is said to operate independently of traditional social hierarchies, unlike alpha and beta males. But what really is a sigma male, and is there meaningful evidence to back up this concept?

Unlike alpha males, who are viewed as dominant leaders, or beta males, often seen as submissive followers, sigma males supposedly exist outside this classification. They are imagined as individuals who are not concerned with societal validation and prefer to carve out their own path in life.

Colin Wilson's 1956 book, "The Outsider", has as a protagonist a man who sees very deeply into the world, leading him to explore existential questions generally, and societal pretense specifically. Sigma males are often portrayed as outsiders. However, instead of being a precursor of the modern sigma phenomenon. Wilson's outsider, rather than exuding supreme self-confidence, 'is not sure who he is. He has found an “I”, but it is not his true “I”.’ His main business is to find his way back to himself.”'

Popular media often romanticises this archetype. For example, characters such as Jason Bourne in the "Bourne Identity" series and John Wick in the "John Wick" franchise exemplify sigma males. Both figures display confidence and a strong sense of independence, thriving in solitude while achieving a significant degree of success.

In relationships, sigma males are often presented as valuing independence, authenticity, intellectual stimulation, seeking partners who are self-sufficient and trustworthy. Moreover, they are portrayed as being loyal and not interested in superficial connections; they either connect at a deep level or not at all.

Interestingly, research also supports traits typically associated with sigma males. Studies have shown that individuals who are introverted and exhibit high emotional intelligence can succeed in various areas of life. According to a 2018 study, 65% of successful entrepreneurs identified as introverts, highlighting the potential for success outwith conventional social dynamics or received wisdom.

However, several strong arguments question the validity of the sigma male moniker.

For example, critics argue that this archetype oversimplifies complex human behaviour. By forcing men into rigid categories, it overlooks the intricate nature of personalities and social dynamics. Research by the American Psychological Association indicates that behaviours are influenced by various factors including genetics, cultural background, upbringing, and personal experiences. This makes it challenging to categorise individuals neatly as alpha, beta, or sigma.

“It’s basically a really simplistic, misguided and bio-determinist account of human behaviour, which doesn’t take into account the sociocultural construction of gender identity or the impact of economic and political forces on people’s choices or lack thereof.

It’s pretty obvious that the whole manosphere project is deeply regressive and rooted in concocted nostalgia and the notion of a mythical past, and comes from a place of insecurity and anxiety about progress and relinquishing or sharing power.” Prof. Debbie Ging, Dublin City University*

I would contend that, In our constantly evolving society, embracing a more nuanced understanding of masculinity is essential. This includes valuing emotional intelligence, encouraging vulnerability, and recognising the importance of meaningful social connections.

Rather than adhering to rigid categories and unhelpful labels, it is crucial for individuals to explore and understand their unique identities and find fulfilment within both independence and community.

Ultimately, the sigma male myth serves as a cautionary tale: although archetypes can help us understand traits, they should not limit how we perceive ourselves or others. By appreciating the complexity and fluidity of human behaviour, we open the door to a richer, more inclusive understanding of what it means to be a man in today's world.

*(https://www.theguardian.com/society/article/2024/jun/12/the-sad-stupid-rise-of-the-sigma-male-how-toxic-masculinity-took-over-social-media?CMP=share_btn_url)